Dear Louise

Louise L Hay is a metaphysical teacher and best-selling author of 27 book s including, You Can Heal Your Life,  Empowering Women,  Meditations to Heal Your Life,  Letters t o Louise, and The Power Is Within You.

Since beginning her career as a Science of Mind minister in 1981, she has assisted thousands of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing.

 Louise’s works have been translated into 25 different languages in 33 countries.

Dear Louise,

I am very interested in receiving the details of the natural diet for pets that you referred to in a recent column. Thank you.

K.L., Redford, MI

Dear K.L., 

Hay House published a book by Kymythy Schultze called Natural Nutrition for Dogs and Cats: The Ultimate Diet. In this book, Ms. Schultze writes:

“Dogs and cats are carnivores. Biologists have yet to discover any wild carnivore that cooks its food. A carnivore’s body has been designed to derive its needed nutrients from raw food. Many successful zoos and other captive habitats have discovered that they cannot keep their animals healthy and able to reproduce unless they are fed raw food. Cooking actually changes the molecular structure of food. The outside appearance of our dogs and cats may have been changed by human selection, but the inside of our furry friends is still that of evolutionary design. The digestive design of your feline or canine companion is not changed simply because it’s living in your condo! Your domesticated carnivore still needs species-appropriate nutrition to achieve optimum health.”

I have been feeding my dog this diet for a number of months now and have noticed elimination of body odor and breath, a healthy skin and coat, clean teeth, strong nails, healthy ears and a happy active animal!

Dear Louise, 

What is the correct way to do affirmations, and how many times a day is best? I’m not sure that I’m doing it right!

D.S., San Dimas, CA

Dear D.S., 

You cannot do affirmations “wrong.” What you can do is the “wrong affirmations.” Every thought you think and every word you say “is” an affirmation, When we talk about “doing affirmations,” we mean taking conscious control over our thoughts and words. The more times a day you can say your “positive” affirmations, the quicker you will get results.

Remember, most of us think over 60,000 thoughts a day. So make the most of the positive affirmations, and you will improve the quality of your life beyond what you can imagine. Have fun doing your affirmation, and have a good life.

Dear Louise, 

I am at the end of my rope! I have been struggling to create peace and harmony in a relationship I’ve been having with a man for more than six years, and I’m also trying to trust him again. We have been to several marriage counselors, and he still continues to lie about little things—for example, he still keeps in contact with his old girlfriends. I find myself doubting him and doubting my own intuition about him. How can I get my power back? I really do love him, but six years of uncertainty can really get to a gal after a while, and this is beginning to affect my health. Help!

K.M., Dallas, TX

Dear K.M., 

This is not love, my dear, it is self-hatred. Is this what you deserve? Obviously there are some hidden blocks and fears standing between you and the life you desire.

You may want to look at the relationships that surrounded you as a child. Did your parents have a loving relationship? Did they treat each other with kindness, appreciation, and love? How did they treat you? Are you holding onto any resentments? 

To get your power back, you need to love yourself enough to leave this relationship now. Start to LOVE YOURSELF. Opt to use this time to really pamper yourself with small acts of kindness and appreciation. Buy yourself flowers; and surround yourself with colors, textures, and scents that please you. Life always mirrors back to us the feelings we have inside. When you are emotionally ready, the right person to share in your growing sense of self-love will be attracted to you like a magnet. An affirmation to use is: I am discovering how whole and wonderful I am. I embody true inner happiness, and I am open to a wonderful, loving, intimate relationship. 

Dear Louise, 

There is one problem that doesn’t get very much attention: obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), especially pure obsessions not connected to compulsions, such as aggressive or sexual imaginings. When you have aggressive obsessions, the idea that your thoughts become reality is very scary. What can I do? Can you tell me more about the problem of having obsessions?

H.K., The Netherlands

Dear H.K., 

We all have fantasies of various forms of violent thoughts. However, not everyone acts on those thoughts. The difference between someone who does commit a crime and someone who doesn’t is that the criminal acts on those thoughts. The more you think a certain kind of thought—whether aggressive, violent, or sexual—the more that type of thinking consumes your energy. Ultimately, that’s what you attract into your life, because our thoughts are magnetic. Our goal is to attract more loving people and more loving experiences.

When you think compulsive sexual thoughts, you will attract people who are sexually compulsive. You will find people who want to use you as you use them. Then you will be left feeling emptier than before. Obsessive-compulsive thinking is just another habit. It usually has roots in some sort of childhood trauma. Going back and healing the initial trauma is usually what is required to heal the compulsive disorder. I would suggest some therapy so that you can release the past. Affirm: The past no longer exists, and I can change my thinking to thoughts of peace.

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