Soul Mate

By Dorothy Thompson

I had a client not too long ago tell me that she had been with a man for a long time and that she was positive she was totally in love with him—and not lust love—and that she didn’t know how to tell if he was her soul mate and if he felt the same. She wanted to know how she could tell, which is one of the more common questions I hear.

“I’m in love, but is it the real thing?” The real thing. Just what is the real thing and how can we tell?

First of all, if we are in love with someone, he/she is our soul mate, but just as there are varying degrees of love, there are varying kinds of soul mates. It sounded to me like in this woman’s case, it was the companion soul mate to whom she was referring.

All companion soul mates, unless they choose not to for various reasons, involve intimacy on different levels. The other two kinds of soul mates—karmic soul mates and twin souls—rarely involve sexual relations. Hard to believe, but it’s true.

As with all companion soul mates, these people come into our lives for a particular reason. Is it for marriage? Or is it to produce offspring?

We can only determine that as the relationship gets further along, that he or she is meant to be a part of our lives. No two soul mates come together without a purpose. That is how we can differentiate acquaintances we meet in our daily lives from people with whom we share a soul mate bond.

If we are in love, we are in love. We feel it. It makes us happy and fulfilled and we want to spend the rest of our life with this person — a natural thing to happen to two people who are soul mates.

However, if further down the road, the two soul mates should part because of differences, that soul mate was still meant to come into our lives. 

Remember, there is a purpose, and when that purpose has been realized as well as finalized, the two may part because their mission together on the Earth plain has been accomplished.

When this happens, the two begin to feel as if they are drifting apart and have no idea what is going on. Their inner self is trying to tell them that there are other soul mates out there that they need in their life in order to be complete.

Yes, it may be sad for one or even both partners, but this is the nature of things, especially if we are just starting out in life.

We need to go through necessary steps in order to be complete. It may take one, or several, soul mates to help with this, but every last one of them that comes into our lives is important, and necessary. 

My advice is to: live, love, learn. Live to our highest expectations, love like there is no tomorrow and learn what each soul mate that enters into our lives is meant to teach us about life, about ourselves, and about why the two of us were brought together in the first place.

Dorothy Thompson is a relationship expert and author of three books on the subject of soul mates. Visit her website at: http://www.soulmatequeen.com  

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