Sondra Ray on Rebirthing

An Interview

ILT: What would you like our readers to know?

SR: That it is not necessary to be stuck any more in pain, physical or emotional. It is not necessary to be sick. It is not even necessary to die. (Even science is catching up and should be able to stop aging in l5 years I am told.

But the good news is: It is possible to be in joy and have fun and make a difference at the same time. Enlightenment is the goal.

Who is Sondra Ray?

SR: Well they say I am the Mother of Rebirthing (which was actually created by Leonard Orr). I have been a leading voice in the New Age movement and I have been in the forefront of spiritual healing for over 35 years. I have written l8 books but mainly I want to be known as someone serving humanity with all my heart and soul. I am a devotee of Babaji and Ammachi and the Course in Miracles.

ILT: In your upcoming seminar you speak of taking your relationship to the next level. What does that mean and how does rebirthing play a role?

SR: I am teaching new paradigms — new ways of playing the relationships game. It is all about having a spiritual partnership and a holy relationship as the Course In Miracles would call it. It is the end of domination, control, arguing and giving your power away. It is living in DEEP EASE in your relationship. There is a lot to it. People have to breathe out the old paradigm because it is like an addiction

ILT: Many people think about relationships with other people. What about their relationship with themselves?

SR: Self Esteem is crucial. People treat you the way you treat yourself. You have to start with the self. If you cannot be happy all by yourself, then you have work to do. If you cannot enjoy living alone, how can anyone want to live with you. Never marry someone who is unhappy. Two people with self-esteem have a better chance of making it obviously. The only way you can have a perfect relationship is to have each one experience their own perfection.

ILT: Sondra, how do we stop sabotaging ourselves in order to live our true destiny?

SR: You have to be willing to get in touch with the sabotaging thoughts in the subconscious mind all of which are creating results you don’t like. Rebirthing brings the unconscious to the conscious so you can see these thoughts and then start to change them.

ILT: What do you feel is the biggest roadblock in our relationships?

SR: People have a fear of love. Then if they happen to receive love, they have a fear that their partner will leave them. Then even if they wanted to leave they have fear they will be alone. These fears have to be resolved. Fear makes us weak and stuck. People also have anger and it has to go. Anger provokes separation. People have guilt and it has to go. Guilt demands punishment.

ILT: During your “loving relationship” seminar what will the people learn?

SR: The Loving Relationships Training I created at the beginning of rebirthing actually will help people go to the next level. They will learn how to stop sabotaging their relationships, get out of old habits of domination, connect with the Divine and so much more. It will be a time of true transformation.

ILT: On a personal note, what do you do for fun? What are some of your hobbies and how do you “unwind”.

SR: My whole life is fun. I travel to the greatest places in the world. I get to speak about love and God. How good is THAT? I love movies and shopping with girl friends. I ride my bike around beautiful Marina Del Rey, California where I live. 

I also love to write books. For me, it’s not work. I would have to say that traveling is one of my favorite things. I just love airports and airplanes. Actually, taking people to India every year is my biggest thrill.

ILT: Sondra, thank you so much for a wonderful and candid look into your life. It’s been fun.