Dear Louise

Louise L Hay is a metaphysical teacher and best-selling author of 27 book s including, 
You Can Heal Your Life,  Empowering Women,  Meditations to Heal Your Life,  Letters t o Louise, and The Power Is Within You.

Since beginning her career as a Science of Mind minister in 1981, she has assisted thousands of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing.

 Louise’s works have been translated into 25 different languages in 33 countries.

Dear Louise,

My boyfriend and I just broke up over the weekend. We’ve been together for two years, and I feel like I’m losing a friend. We know it’s the best thing for both of us at this stage in our lives, but I’m afraid that when I meet someone else I’ll treat them in the same way. I was jealous and critical and feared being left behind or abandoned (which I feel is dragging on from my childhood).

I’m working toward a brighter future, I think. Could you perhaps suggest some words to say to myself to remind me that I’m worthy of love and able to look ahead in a positive way?

P.E., Sydney, Australia

Your past thoughts created exactly what you feared. You were left behind and abandoned. So you see, it has nothing to do with them. It’s all in your own consciousness. There really isn’t any blame; everything worked out according to the law. I’m glad you realized that it was the fearful child within you that created the problem and couldn’t believe that she deserved to be loved, so let your thinking be about deserving love; then you won’t treat your next boyfriend in that pushing manner.

Here are some affirmations to do every day: I forgive my parents for teaching me I was unlovable. I now learn to truly love and adore myself. I treat myself as though I am the most precious being. The love I have for myself radiates out and attracts others, who also love themselves. I learn to live in a loving world, for I know that I am loving and worthy of love, too.

Dear Louise,

What is the metaphysical reason for dry skin? I feel as if the dry skin on my face is sending me a message, and I don’t know what it is. I’ve never had bad skin before, and I feel as though the stress from the flaking and scaling is making it worse. I want to learn the lesson and move on, but I can’t figure it out!

N.J., Los Angeles 

On the physical side, dry skin comes from not drinking enough water. Remember, it’s necessary to drink two quarts a day minimum to keep your skin hydrated. Also, if you’re doing that dreadful fat-free diet that’s so popular now, you won’t be getting enough oil to lubricate your skin. Two tablespoons of flaxseed oil or olive oil a day will keep you shiny.

On the metaphysical side, dry skin can relate to a feeling of being unsafe. For some reason you may not be trusting Life at the moment. Remember, the power that beats your heart is the same power that has brought you this far and will take you the rest of the way. Relax, breathe deeply several times a day, and affirm: I lubricate my life with joyous, loving thoughts. I allow life to nurture and nourish me. I am open and receptive to all the joys of living. I am juicy and delicious!

Dear Louise,

I’ve been struggling with facial tightening that started about June of last year. It was just a slight tightening but has progressed to a point where I have no control over it, and have pain in my face and jaw all the time. The funny thing is, it seems to start whenever I’m inactive. As long as I’m talking or physically active, I’m okay. Whenever I try to relax, my mind won’t let me, and then the tightening and pressure starts. I’ve been to numerous doctors and have been told it’s probably stress related and I should take an antidepressant. When this first began, I wasn’t depressed, just a little concerned about what might be the cause. This whole business now has me depressed and anxious all the time—it seems all I do is cry. My husband has been so good, but I know he’s getting frustrated and frightened, and so am I! Any advice?

J.R., Oregon

There is a fear of facing something, so what is it you fear? Are you afraid of aging? Is that what you don’t want to look at? There’s also some guilt because of the pain. Guilt always seeks punishment, and punishment means pain. The tightening is only a symptom of the thoughts that are contributing to it. Remember, this condition came from nothing and will go back to nothing when you release the fear and/or the guilt. Let’s not dwell on the problem. Let’s look to inspiration and healing instead. Affirm: I am safe, I am loved, and I face my future peacefully and calmly. I am loved by life. I forgive others, and I forgive myself. I now cherish, love, and adore who I am. I am a precious baby, and I treat myself in that way. I bring joy into my heart; and I am healed, whole, joyous, and free.

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