Soul Mates…Myth or Reality

By Georgina Cannon

As human beings, we instinctively yearn for intimate connections with others. Generally, if we’re not happily partnered then we’re looking to be.

I therefore thought this would be a great time to talk about soul mates, especially some of the enduring myths. Not to burst your bubble, but I’ll let you in on a little secret: soul mate is not synonymous with life partner or lover.

“But I felt an instant connection!” Many times I’ve had people tell me about someone they’ve met or maybe seen across the proverbial crowded room. They tell me about the instant connection they felt, or how it seems like they know the person already. They are convinced these are the signs of a soul mate relationship. My belief, however, is that this is rarely the case.

Instead, these instant connections are simply the intuitive recognition of a familiar pattern. When we’re born, our early interactions with others indelibly shape our definition of love. If parents were distant and undemonstrative, we quickly take distant and undemonstrative as our definition of love. If parents argued a lot, we learn that arguing means love.

When we meet someone and feel an instant connection, it’s usually because they carry out the pattern that matches our definition of love. Even though the person may not have uttered a single word or exhibited a single indicative behavior, we know, at a DNA level, they are a pattern match.

So who is your soul mate then? A soul mate is any person who comes into your life to help you learn a lesson that will advance your spiritual growth. Period. A soul mate can be your father, sister, friend, boss, dentist, or the guy you buy your paper from every morning.

A soul mate might be with you for a short or long period of time. You might have a close relationship or a passing encounter. You might meet several soul mates in one lifetime. The key is the lesson your soul mate helps you learn.

Soul mates pre-arrange their encounters in the space between lives. One soul agrees to help another soul evolve in a certain way by learning a particular lesson. When both souls are incarnated, they meet to carry out their agreement. You don’t have to worry about finding your soul mate. You will naturally find each other.

Now, your soul mate might be your romantic partner. When this happens, it can be truly wonderful. But even if your partner isn’t a soul mate, you can still have a deep, soulful connection that helps both of you grow. In fact, mutual growth should be a fundamental part of any love relationship.

Dr. Georgina Cannon, a certified master clinical hypnotherapist, is an international award-winning teacher, lecturer and Director of the Ontario Hypnosis Centre in Toronto, Ontario. Visit, www.ont-hypnosis-centre.com .

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