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 Karmic Relationships…
THE TIMELESS DRAMA
by Dr. Charles L. Richards
The law of karma is the ultimate expression of self-responsibility. Karma results in an energetic record of all your past words, thoughts and actions. That record is your life, and you are its author. Like it or not, how and what you are thinking, feeling, and what you are doing this very moment will have it’s manifestation sometime in your future. It is a payback system that means in one lifetime, you may be the victimizer and in another you become the victim.
A good example of how victims and victimizers switch roles in relationships from one lifetime to the next is the case of one of my clients named Janice.
Janice, a forty-year-old mother of two is a very successful, hard-driving, businesswoman. When she came to me, she was going through a difficult divorce. Her severely obese husband didn’t have a job and she had to pay him monthly alimony payments. She felt victimized.
When Janice first married, her husband was the picture of success — trim, handsome, and a popular man with his own thriving business. An IRS audit tied up his resources, his company floundered and eventually failed. He never recovered. The more successful Janice became, the more depressed and combative he became. Finally she decided to file for divorce.
During the difficult divorce proceedings, when Janice talked with her husband on the telephone, she felt bouts of rage. She was wondering why her life had taken such a miserable turn. In one of Janice’s Soul Journey sessions, a process I’ve developed to resolve past life influences on present life, she experienced herself as a male warrior in Scotland during the Middle Ages. This soldier was stocky, strong, and bold in battle. Heroic and overconfident, he often took unnecessary risks on the battlefield. During war campaigns he’d left his wife at home, even though she depended on him completely for her support. Janice relived a scene when this warrior prepared to ride off to battle. When his wife realized he was going away, she screamed, prostrated herself, and begged him not to leave. Crying, she said, “You’ll never come back.” Finally, he grabbed her by the shoulders, looked into her eyes, and said, “You have to trust me. I promise, I’ll be back.” Now karmically speaking, making promises is ill advised. They bind a soul to making good on the thing that is promised in this life or another. True to his nature, the warrior became one of the first to enter the battle fray and was killed in an early exchange After the warrior’s death, his wife became angry and bitter. Her main memory of her husband was that he had broken a promise. Her life became a struggle. Janice had a shocking realization while she relived this lifetime. She recognized that her husband today had been the soldier’s unforgiving wife. Karmic bonds run deep. Janice now understood that the conflict and financial burden during her divorce was a direct result of her carelessness as the soldier in a past life.
Her husband’s demand for financial support was karmic payback for the promise she’d broken to return from battle. With this new understanding Janice’s rancor dissolved. Her anger had only been aggravating the situation with her husband by strengthening a negative karmic bond. Sometime after this session, Janice eventually divorced her husband. Noting the difference in her response to him since her Soul Journey session, Janice reported that she no longer got into heated verbal exchanges with her ex-husband. She viewed his behavior with a lack of resentment, a lot more objectivity, and even with amusement at times. After the divorce her husband gradually began to pull himself up financially. The energetic karmic shift resulting from Janice forgiving herself in that past life also shifted the dynamics between her and her ex-husband.
This is a classic example of a karmic relationship in action. This is why it is often said that relationships are hard work. That instant recognition or unexplained familiarity we have when we first meet a potential mate is one soul recognizing another from a past life. The stronger that initial attraction between those we first meet is, the stronger the karmic ties from past lives. Falling in love is more like falling in karma. This can be a mixed blessing depending on the past lives shared. If the past lives we shared together were full of love those we meet may come to be our best friends or we may find an ideal partner. This is a true soul mate. No matter the history, karmic relationships require one thing to eventually free us to experience their most desired possibilities. That one thing is unconditional love. The only way out of a challenging karmic relationship is to love your way out. With this in your mind and heart karma can become a friend you can count on. It’s all a matter of choice from moment to moment.
Charles is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Encinitas, California. He specializes in Soul Journey therapy. E-mail:
DrChasZ@aol.com , phone 760-633-2919 or his website at www.karmic relationships.com. His new book: Karmic Relationships: Healing Invisible Wounds.
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