Give
Atlas A Break
By Alan Cohen
In the garden of the Sarasota, Florida
estate of fabled circus entrepreneur John Ringling stands an impressive
bronze statue of the Roman god Atlas bearing the world on his shoulders.
The first thing I noticed about Atlas was that he was not a happy
camper. Atlas was struggling dreadfully and appeared to be on the verge
of caving in. Dude, carrying the weight of the world is overbearing!
While Atlas is often romanticized, his
job sucks. If you accept his role, your life will suck. If you assume
responsibility for everyone and everything around you, you will rapidly
become a crispy critter. Besides, it doesn’t work. When you try to run
the whole show, you get frazzled, frayed, and fatigued. You feel
overwhelmed, grow resentful, and then lash out inappropriately, blowing
little things into major issues. Over time you may become ill. Shoulder
pain, stomach problems, and high blood pressure are strong indicators
that you are trying to play Atlas.
If you examine your responsibilities more
closely, you will discover it is not the universe that has piled too
much on your plate. It is you. You have taken on jobs not assigned to
you. You are trying too hard. Frustration and conflict are messages from
the universe that it is time to back off. The longer you wait to get the
message, the harder your journey will be. Let go now and beat the rush
later.
I went to a friend’s birthday party at
a local beach. My friend’s mother attended, and she decided she would
make sure everyone had a good time. (You can see where this is headed.)
From the moment the guests arrived, the mother orchestrated where
everyone was to sit, how far apart their blankets were to be, how and
where the food was to be put out, when people were to eat, and on and
on. While she was trying to be helpful, her nervous energy was
irritating and detracted from the natural flow of the event. The guests
could figure out where to sit; it didn’t really matter how far their
blankets were apart; and when they got hungry, they would find their way
to the food. Most of us had been eating for our entire lives, and
finding food at a party posed no big existential dilemma. I’m sure mom
was having the least fun of everyone there.
If you think the world would unravel if
you did not keep it glued, lay back more. Watch what happens when you
allow life to take care of itself. If there is something you really need
to do, you will know it. If not, don’t try to solve problems before
they occur. In so doing, you create all kinds of problems that wouldn’t
have happened if you weren’t trying to head them off.
If you have assigned yourself the
position of General Manager of the Universe, you probably resist
delegating. Then you end up doing all kinds of things you don’t want
or need to do. Then you wonder why you feel overwhelmed. Or why your
business isn’t growing. Or why your children are so needy. It’s not
them. It’s you.
Your way out is simple, but not easy
admit that there are other people in the universe who can do some things
as well as you. Maybe — hold onto your seat, now — even better than
you. I know this is a totally radical, unreasonable, and heretical
concept to suggest, but alas, it may be so.
Letting other people take over some of
the things you are doing, alien as this sounds, offers some very
attractive benefits (1) You can quit doing things you don’t want to
do; (2) You free yourself to do the things you want to do; (3) Your
business’s productivity and income will increase; (4) You will support
and empower others to develop their gifts and talents and be rewarded
for them; (5) Everyone will be happier and healthier; and (6) You might
actually have a life.
If you believe you must do it all
yourself, you probably feel lonely. Life can get scary when you believe
you have no one to lean on. Yet when you are connected to your higher
power, you proceed with the confidence of kings. A Course in Miracles
tells us, "If you knew who walks beside you, fear would be
impossible." Whether you believe in God, love, people, science, or
your pooch, one thing is certain You have help. The intelligent
resourceful universe keeps showing up to support those who need it —
sometimes in miraculous ways. A woman told me she had wanted to come to
Hawaii for a seminar, but didn’t have the funds for airfare. She
figured if she could not come to be in my program, she would read one of
my books she had had for a while. She went to her bookshelf, opened the
book, and out fell a check someone had given her a year earlier. It was
in the amount of $450 — exactly what she needed for the airfare.
Such an experience is not a fluke; it is
a demonstration of how universal principles get behind you as you align
with them. Miracles do not suspend the laws of life; they fulfill them.
The river of life is always flowing; our part is to get our boat into
the water and let the current power us. It’s all a lot easier than you’ve
been told. Give Atlas a break; he’s ready.
Alan Cohen is the author of 15 popular
inspirational books, including the award-winning A Deep Breath of Life.
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